The two parts to being more successful with women are your tactics, and your self-worth. This article will outline the difference, importance, and how tactics, and your self-worth relate to each other. It will also outline how you can use them to be more successful and make your journey to attracting women much easier.
When I first started my journey, I wanted the tactics and to know exactly what to say to women. After reading the book “the game”; I found out that guys could use lines and routines, and say the same thing over and over again to attract women. So I thought all I have to do is memorize a script while being myself. So I thought sign me up and I’ll do whatever it takes, writing it down to memorizing a magic script to learn how pick girls up.
This happens to many guys coming for dating advice, after they’ve read books like “the game”, or heard about pick up stuff. Guys want the tactics “to know what to say and what to do”.
However, tactics have evolved into skill building, improvisational conversations build on principals. Therefore, I’ve transitioned from teaching tactics to teach skills to attract women. These skills range from how be funnier, to how carry a conversation. From how to be more comfortable talking about themselves, and portraying themselves in a better way, to how to improvise cool fun and interesting conversation.
Although the things you say, tactics and outer game are important, the foundation of an attractive guy is definitely more important. Guys who don’t know what to say, or what to do when it comes to talking with women, are taught valuable skills based on a good foundation of solid inner game.
Although building your outer game definitely helps. The second area, which is often neglected by many guys, is your self-worth: the inner game. It is very crucial to have a solid level of self-worth, even before you start this journey all the way up, to even when you get further along.
Self-worth can be defined as how you feel about yourself, your self-confidence, your self-esteem. P.S. Really where your head is at with yourself. When you have:
– Clean beliefs about yourself and about women
– You bring a better energy
– You have more positivity
The outer game; tactics, skills and how you portray yourself, come much easier and much more naturally.
So whether you’re just starting out, or even if you’re more advanced, definitely spend some time on the self-worth aspect. To do this:
– Study and find out hobbies and passions that make you happy
To increase your overall level of happiness there’s a lot of great books and studies out there. Examples of things that I do for my happiness are:
– Spending time being more social
– Being around people that I love
– Being grateful for what I have and what I’ve done and accomplished in my life
A cool thing you could do is write down all the things that you’re very proud of and all the things that you’ve accomplished and done and start to define your self-worth based off of things that you can control. Less so off of the reactions of other people if you could learn to do that more often and treat yourself with more self-respect.
– Stop being so hard on yourself
A big issue I see from guys a lot is they’re their own worst enemy. They’re too hard and tough on themselves. Be gentler and show more compassion for yourself. Guys don’t like the word “gentle”, but if you could be more gentle with yourself rather than hammering the nail, motivation and other things on ourselves, of over and over. You will find that you’re much more peaceful and centred, while giving off a much better vibe, and an accepting energy that women will gravitate towards.
Girls want to be around a guy whose fun, who’s positive and happy to make them feel good about themselves. Women don’t want to be with a guy who hates himself, or a guy who is miserable. Take from this and definitely work on the inner game and self-worth.
I have videos about the outer skills, so you know what to say when you approach. Other things to talk about, and how to flirt. Those are great to know but…
Tactics does not fix low self-worth
Going forwards, I encourage you to adopt a more well-rounded approach. Do not neglect the self-worth aspect. I don’t want you to get caught up, like I did in the beginning of my journey, by spending so much time learning tactics to the point where I neglected how I felt about myself, and my happiness. It definitely caught up to me at a certain point.
My videos on YouTube talk a lot about confidence and happiness and being an overall great self-loving person. My mission for you is to make guys really cantered, and really happy great people to be around with. On top of that; teach them some skills to get what they want out of their dating life. Here is the advice going forwards:
– Put some time into reading books about self-development
– Trying new things out to make yourself happier and
– Having more peace of mind because, contented of what you have already achieved
When you have great self-worth and inner game, the outer game and what you say will come much easier.